tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9291442.post112601179437432786..comments2024-03-28T03:17:00.191-04:00Comments on Fibermania: The New RegimeMelody Johnsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08644269589363519294noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9291442.post-1126055319730536632005-09-06T21:08:00.000-04:002005-09-06T21:08:00.000-04:00My husband works (NOT here) every day, thank god! ...My husband works (NOT here) every day, thank god! But every so often, in the evening, he will plunk himself down in my studio while I am TRYING to work and just sit there. I have to stop. I know he wants my company but - argh - not when I am in the middle. He finally 'got' it when I asked how he would feel if I came into his office and just SAT there while he was trying to work.<BR/><BR/>My previous profesion was as a career transition counselor (counseling people who had been downsized, fired, or taken 'early' retirement). A terrible period of adjustment and I ran a support group for the wives. It can be a truly disfunctional situation - not usual. So don't feel guilty.Raynahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02981832263645584878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9291442.post-1126029810771562802005-09-06T14:03:00.000-04:002005-09-06T14:03:00.000-04:00I had to laugh when I read your post today! It re...I had to laugh when I read your post today! It reminded me of a situation last week when I barked "this is not a vacation" at my husband when he wanted to play and I wanted to get back to work. I laugh about it now because it all sounds so silly, but believe me, I know your frustration. It's a drag. No wonder there is a saying: Men, can't live with them, can't without. Anyway, thanks for your encouraging words on my blog today. I'm so fortunate to have you give me tips to help things run more smoothly. With all that you have accomplished, you gotta be doing something right!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13651213981994174520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9291442.post-1126018918171910172005-09-06T11:01:00.000-04:002005-09-06T11:01:00.000-04:00My husband was laid off after 9/11 and was home fo...My husband was laid off after 9/11 and was home for 6 months, it made me crazy. i hated seeing him there watching tv all the time. i knew he was probably dealing with some depression as a result of the situation, but he was in my space and i had a hard time getting back to doing my work. i just had to keep biting my tongue. Eventually he did find some freelance work in seattle and los angeles (there was nothing in Austin) and he was away from home for weeks and months at a time then. The opposite extreme. Since your husband won't be returning to work, it sounds like he needs to find his passion or bliss as James Campbell used to say. Maybe you could suggest he take a class in some subject he has always been interested in but has never really pursued. After working for so many years interacting with others daily and now finding himself just hanging around the house he may end up with some significant depression. good luckAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06858569382699600146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9291442.post-1126018596182994232005-09-06T10:56:00.000-04:002005-09-06T10:56:00.000-04:00Oh boy, do I HEAR you on this. Summers, when R. i...Oh boy, do I HEAR you on this. Summers, when R. is home for vacation, make me crazy. I do love September when I reclaim my schedule! Good luck--sounds like continuing to talk and set up structures that work for you is the way to go...Diane Perinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07447372718275554860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9291442.post-1126017479247007522005-09-06T10:37:00.000-04:002005-09-06T10:37:00.000-04:00Husbands being in your space is the hardest adjust...Husbands being in your space is the hardest adjustment we have to make. Love sweet Ronnie to death but ended up being snarky before Labor Day was over. It isn't that he is doing anything wrong, it is just that he is there...in my domain. We share an office space...he has his own computer and I walked in last night to find him on both his and mine at the same time....bleech. That was when the snarky remarks came. Hang in there..it will take time but y'all will get it worked out.gabriellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02260743627800311448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9291442.post-1126017386705543432005-09-06T10:36:00.000-04:002005-09-06T10:36:00.000-04:00I so agree. Everything in life messes up my sched...I so agree. Everything in life messes up my schedule. Each nite ends with a plan for the morning and by eight am it is already screwed up. I am going to evaluate my time use and thanks to you doing it first, maybe, just maybe I will get my act together.Tommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12648012410321780203noreply@blogger.com